The internet has scolded a man for failing to help his pregnant wife with household chores and cooking after she shared her story online.
User UsernameA1B2 posted on the popular discussion site Mumsnet on Friday, explaining: “I’m 15 weeks pregnant with my second child. I still have nausea all day long. I can’t stand a lot of food smells, especially cooking smells, and it can cause nausea. I have to run straight to the bathroom to be sick.”
As a stay at home mom of an autistic 4-year-old, she explains that she did all the cooking and cleaning in the house before her recent pregnancy.
“My husband can’t cook anything but frozen ready meals,” she said, “And the house is a tip at the moment. The living room gets covered with toys and books and gets worse until I clean up.
“Am I unreasonable to think it’s not that hard to cook and make something like a bolognese while pregnant and exhausted?”
She went on to explain that her 36-year-old husband cannot cook or clean: “I had to scrub the bathtub when I was 8 and a half months pregnant. One time I asked him to clean the sink and he wiped it with toilet paper. ,” she said. explained.
Internet users were shocked by the story and overwhelmingly beat the man for not pulling his weight around the house.
“Of course he can cook and clean. Any functioning adult can handle these two things. He just won’t do it because that’s your job in his head,” wrote one Mumsnet user.
“He is an adult, not a child,” wrote another commenter, “He should be cooking his share of the family meals whether you are sick or not.”
Other commenters were shocked that the woman tolerated it at all: “The more pertinent question is why are you tolerating this lazy, entitled male child?” asked one Mumsnet user. While another user wrote, “It doesn’t take much skill to chop some veggies into a salad. I think it’s less that he can’t and more that he won’t.”
A nationwide survey by the Institute for Family Studies found that married couples are most likely to argue over chores and responsibilities in the home. Nearly half of couples with preschool-age children said they argued “often” or “sometimes” over chores.
Couples who argued about chores were less likely to be happy in their relationship. Of those who said they argued “often” about household chores, only 47 percent said their relationship was “very happy”, while of those couples who said they rarely or never argued about chores, 83 percent reported being very happy. were in their relationship.
“Your man really needs to step up here,” wrote one Mumsnet user, “He’s definitely going to have to take the reins with the 4-year-old when your baby comes.”
But one user suggested the wife give her husband a little rest, writing, “I think your husband could be nicer and do more of the housework, but there’s nothing wrong with having easy ready-to-wear.” ready meals or frozen food during this time.”
In March, the internet backed an expectant mother who refused to have her husband in the delivery room after he was “mean and distant” during her pregnancy.