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Drew Sidora had a surprising ally by her side in her ongoing back-and-forth with husband Ralph Pittman: former rival Kenya Moore.
on Sundays Real Housewives of AtlantaMoore stood up for Sidora, calling Pittman his “disrespectful” behavior.
Pittman and Sidora have been at odds since she joined the show last season, first arguing over his last-minute, unannounced solo trip to Tampa, Florida, and this year, bumping heads when he admitted to being “close” with his female assistant. He later finished a fancy dinner he had provided for Sidora as she tried to deal with their lingering issues.
“Drew doesn’t respect me, doesn’t appreciate me,” Pittman complained during a couples therapy session on Sunday. “I give her the stuff any woman would appreciate. This one here? It’s like everything is a problem with her because she’s insatiable! I tried to feed her steak and lobster that night. Really, that night? She deserved a Lunchable .”
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“It’s all these things that we haven’t solved!” Sidora snapped back, describing her marriage as “a vicious cycle of highs and lows” when their therapist, Dr. Ken, asked him to live more in the moment. “How can we be in this bliss that is not real?”
The compromise, at least temporary, was that the two would partake in a 30-day ceasefire in which they agreed not to engage in combative talks. “No screams, no attacks, under any circumstances,” Dr. know them.
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That didn’t seem to last long, as days later — during a cast trip to New York City — the two began bickering again as they discussed their issues. “Emotionally, I’m still dealing with the fact that we were even dealing with another woman,” Sidora told her colleague housewivesto explain why she no longer wore her wedding ring.
“I had to fire the assistant,” Pittman said. “I think one question is, how do you eventually get over it and say, ‘This is something that happened in the past and now we can move past it.’ †
But Kandi Burruss wouldn’t shake Pittman so easily. “Come on, you know it looked really crazy,” she told him about his relationship with his former assistant, who had allegedly suggested giving Pittman a massage via text messages that Sidora later found.
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“And you can if you don’t understand the context behind it!” Pittman said in his defense. “I had my share… But it wasn’t like Ralph said, ‘Hey, let me go and grab this fat-ass assistant!’ [Drew and I] had some very serious growing pains and we were trying to do business together. We were in a dark place.”
That logic didn’t work with Burruss. “That’s even worse for you to have a woman around who worked closely with you,” she retorted. “I don’t understand how you don’t understand how she would feel.”
Still, Pittman didn’t flinch. “Why are we even telling you this?” he asked Sidora. “Something comes to you in a different way than it comes to me and that’s fine.”
It didn’t bode well for Moore, who took the opportunity to step in and stand up for Sidora.
“Look, let me say this to you now. If my husband said that to me, I’d turn this table around because it’s so disrespectful,” she told Pittman. “You’re basically saying she’s lying and it didn’t happen that way. That would make me mad if someone said that to my face, especially when I’m in pain. Don’t you understand? You’re destroying her.”
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She also noted how Pittman’s “gaslighting” was reminiscent of things her estranged husband, Marc Daly, used to do. “Ralph, you remind me so much of Marc, it’s crazy,” Moore said. “She doesn’t want to feel invalid. She doesn’t want to say anything and you get defensive and you say, ‘You’re crazy to think that.’ †
“He’s an asshole. He’s an asshole. I’ve seen him talk to her and it reminds me of times when Marc spoke to me like that,” Moore said at the table, adding in confession: trying to see Drew for who she is and what I can see. is someone who is really hurt.”
Sidora, for her part, was grateful for Moore’s support. “Kenya is actually communicating exactly how I feel,” she said in a confessional. “I hope Ralph really hears it, he could do the same things she went through with Marc. And you see where they ended up.”
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In the end, Sidora and Pittman seemed unable to find a solution. And while the women agreed that Pittman was wrong in dismissing Sidora’s feelings, they also had some strong feelings about Sidora.
“Yet Drew…it’s you too. He only does what you allow,” Marlo Hampton said with new housewife Sanya Richards-Ross adds, “That’s a good point because you teach people how to love you.”
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“A few of us have verbally argued with Drew. She can’t let go of things,” Moore admitted. “Drew can’t let go of things and it’s ironic because some of the things she accuses you of, she does. Like acknowledging when [she’s] wrong.”
Maybe that’s something Sidora will work on, as she admitted in the episode that she’s determined to work things out with Pittman. “I want my marriage to work. I want to be married forever,” she said. “All the prayer warriors are after the Pittmans.”
The Real Housewives of Atlanta airs Sundays (8:00 PM ET) on Bravo.